The Intricacy of Gossiping, social bonding and friendship

Being a person who really love to gossip
I realize, this social activity is not merely talking about people, things, etc
There are a sort of recipient design and also a social obligation as a response of being addressed as the recipient of the gossip
There are also secrecy, trust, intricate detail and agreement or common ground

Somehow when you are given a gossip
It is meant to be somehow a secret
A hidden news in which you are being given a trust to receive it, to listen to it and to keep it

Thus, when someone gossips about something and gives their personal judgement as to why this piece of news carry such an importance, they somehow expect you to believe, expect you to agree upon their view
Try to reach you, make you and that person to have a common ground in which the opinion about this piece of information
And also, bond with you perhaps with the hatred or negative feeling with this sort of news

Gossiping about a celebrity and then give a harsh judgement on the behavior, though what the celebrity's been doing is not really a serious deviant in a social norm
So, you can think of why should you participate in condemning the celebrity??
When you are in a group, talking about that, judging about that and the group also judge about that...in conformity
You... are simply "forced" to adopt the group judgement or else you are merely an outsider

It's just a gossip
It's none of my business
It's not a serious matter

But when it comes about relation and bonding
We may have to rethink about how to verbally act in gossiping sequence as it is not merely as saying, telling and discussing gossip, unclear and perhaps secret new that can't be trusted
It is what's in the discussion, the moves in discussion
Be very careful, there are moves there that can secure or separate you from the relation and bonding with the people you are gossiping with

No wonder I love to gossip with my closest friends... :)